Monday, November 24, 2008

Life in General..........

Remember those "choose your own ending" books? I loved those books when I was in middle school. It was usually a mystery story and I mostly chose the ending where I would get caught by the bad guy and that was the end of the story.



Bad luck?

Bad choices?

Bad guesses?


After choosing incorrectly, I would always go back to where I made my "wrong turn" and choose the right path...usually to mess up later down the line, but still hopeful that I would "win" the game. I guess I liked those books so much because it was possible know if you picked right or wrong AND you had the power to go back to where you made that wrong decision and change your fate...


Sometimes I really wish that life was like that. Does anyone else often wonder if they made the right choices in life or if they were where they were supposed to be to have the most successful outcome? Sometimes I find myself obsessing about this....it's been really prevalent recently as I've been "reuniting" with a lot of people from high school and college.


Back then, I had my life plotted out...I was going to enter medical school right after college; be done by 27, get married then start a family while having a fulfilled life in medicine. However, the path I chose was to "take a break" from school after college, I met my hubby and got married at 23 had my first baby at 27. I'm working in medicine, but not as a licensed individual.


There are often times I feel like I have chosen the incorrect path...Sure, I love my family, friends, etc....but I wish I knew for sure that the choices were right.....................

15 comments:

Blogging Mama said...

You are not alone. What you write has had me in a funk a lot lately regarding my own life. I think we all reexamine choices we made.

American in Norway said...

Oh sweetie... I play the "what if" game all of the time!
ALL THE TIME...
What makes me feel better is to go to FACEBOOK & look up the biggest losers from our class & have a good laugh. So when you are feeling down you can look at them & think "at least I turned out a lot better than them!" Oh gosh, did I just admit this outloud?

Seriously...I always thought you were going to be a Dr. as well... is going back to school a possibility at this point? You hear about people doing it all of the time... I know it isn't easy with 3 little kids but...but maybe one day? I think you are a super super girl who has ALWAYS been there for everyone...(especially ME...) & just know that you are loved by sooo many people, you can't even imgaine!

Swirl Girl said...

We all question whether we took the right path in life. You wouldn't be human if you didn't.

Ronda's Rants said...

My best friend in the whole world went back to college at your age and then nursing school...with little ones at home. I know it's not the same as becoming a Doctor...but she worked very hard and I was so proud of her. Her children still truned out brilliant!
I am now 50 and while I don't ask myself those questions because I just very much beleive have always chosen what God wanted ...not so much my choice but I just don't want to think that after I asked for guidence he let me do something stupid! Tee Hee!
But...now at 50 I have made a list of things I would like to do...and as the opportunities come up...I grab them!
Look for an opportunity and grab it!
You seem rather perfect to me!

JANE said...

I think of it as the only way I'm where I am now, is because of the paths that I walked. When I do the "what if", I take into account what I would not have now ie: my kids, hubby, etc. It puts it more into perspective for me that way. And like Ronda, the older I get, the less "what ifs"!!

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Therese said...

Kelly-You are exactly where you are supposed to be. Playing what-ifs will only leave you frustrated. It is never too late to start a new path but embrace where you've been! ;)

Hot Tub Lizzy said...

It think it's human nature to think that, but then I also try to remember that each choice has some sort of good result... I wish I hadn't chosen to marry the man I did... but had I not, i wouldn't have my 2 girls and I wouldn't have meet Mr. B and his boys. Those are 5 things that are WAY worth the pain of a bad decision.

JWilson said...

I think there are always things we second guess. I think Ronda is right though don't look back at what you haven't or didn't do but look forward at what you can.

CaraBee said...

I think everyone wonders about their decisions. I know I do. I always think, though, that if I hadn't made some monumentally bad decisions back then I wouldn't be where I am now, which is a pretty darn great place.

Jen B. said...

You are not alone! I often wonder if I've made the right decisions, too. I would never change the decisions I've made though, because I have a wonderful family, good job, & we're all healthy & happy.... I couldn't ask for more!

CynthiaK said...

I think we all question it at different times in our lives. It's totally natural. While I wouldn't give up my husband and kids, I wish I had made some different choices about career and such early on.

But, life still moves forward and you can still take new turns along the way. It's never too late to try something new!

Shannon said...

Oh, I loved those books too!

We all have thoughts on this... I'm the same way. If I hadn't have moved away from MI, who would I have married? What if I had finished college? What if I had not met Shane? I could go on...

But I agree with what Lizzy said... even the "wrong" decisions we've made usually have a good ending. Or something else has resulted from that "wrong" choice.

Jen said...

I know what you mean, sometime I wonder too. Was that the right choice for me?

Melissa B. said...

All of us spend a fair amount of time second-guessing our decisions. You wouldn't be human if you didn't. But when you go with the flow, and accept the decision you've made, then you won't waste so many sleepless nights wondering, right?

Kat said...

I loved those books. My brother had them all. And I would read every possible outcome. I still kinda do that. Do you take those blogging quizzes...and then go back and change one answer to see how it changes who you are?? :-)

And as for the questioning...I am certainly not doing what I thought I would be doing. I always wonder how my life would be different if I was an exchange student. Or if I went to a different college. Or if I had finished my phd. And on and on. But...I can't imagine not having these people in my life. Can't imagine at all...